So, the false equivalency is strong – very very strong.
Before I “go there” here is some information about attempting to grab or hit someone’s testicles as a means of self-defense. It can be effective, but it’s also very risky. A man is also likely to be expecting an attack to the groin.
On the other hand, I have never, in my life, heard anyone suggest that a valid self-defense technique is to give a man a “titty twister” or an incredibly rough hand-job. In fact, I’m pretty sure if anyone suggested such a thing I would be prettied damned offended by it – because unless non-consensual contact of any kind, much less with sex organs, is justified due to utility in defending yourself, it’s not “self-defense” it’s assault and battery and that shit don’t work.
Rape is not a valid self-defense technique, and mangling or otherwise hurting someone’s sex organs is just not funny in any other sense than – I’m laughing nervously because hearing about this is so damned uncomfortable.
So, now that I got that unpleasantness out of the way, here is some more unpleasantness:
First things first:
0) The whole point of self-defense techniques is to debilitate or subdue someone so that you can escape the situation.
1) Yes, kicking a woman in the genitalia hurts like heck, but it is probably not going to debilitate her.
However, kicking or kneeing a woman in the groin as a self-defense technique may very well be justified. Especially if you are over-powered, going for whatever opportune sensitive area does make sense. I get it….not enraged yet.
2) Grabbing her breasts will also hurt, but will not debilitate her.
Wait for the rage.
3) Kicking someone like that will likely result in the person grabbing your leg and lifting it so that you fall flat on your back, unless you are lucky.
So, just be careful with that in general. Word to the wise.
4) Grabbing someone with both hands while leaving their arms free is going to results in you losing the fight and possibly getting seriously hurt.
This goes for ANYTHING you are grabbing, and there is no guarantee that grabbing someone’s testicles is going to debilitate them MUCH less their f*ing boobs.
So yeah – now I’m enraged.
This is not a depiction of self-defense. It’s a depiction of sexual violence against the woman; even if she initiated a violent confrontation. This is NOT to any reasonable degree, a gender-reversed version of squeezing someone’s balls because they are attacking you.
5) If you get into a physical fight it is not ethical to continue to harm once the danger is past.
Oh – that includes sexually assaulting them.
I know, you’d THINK this would go without saying, but hey – sometimes you gotta spell this shit out.
Ironically, perhaps, doing something that would injure her MORE if she attacked you would be more justified if the initial kick did not subdue her. Brutalizing her boobies is going to be less effective than a knee to the face; and is a hell of a lot less “rapey”.
It’s about reciprocal response. You respond based on what the situation calls for. Jujitsu is a great art in this regard. Techniques can be modified to simply immobilize or restrain, debilitate with pain, maim, or (in extreme situations) kill.
I highly recommend the art for both men and women, even though you need quite a bit of training for you to be good enough at the techniques to be practical.
I think it is especially a good art for men, since they absolutely have to deal with the double-standard if they are attacked by a woman. A man may very well be seen as the aggressor regardless of the realities and especially if he is physically imposing.
A technique that DOES NOT involve punching a much weaker person in the face, and opening yourself up to criminal charges, might be preferable to an all-or-none technique.
Also, if you are attacked by a child, if your go-to defense is *box the ears, grab the head, and smash their face down on your knee* you are probably going to jail for a very very long time and should, go to jail, forever and a day.
Restraining techniques would be more appropriate! <—- Understatement.
However, if a person who is weaker than you (even much weaker) decides to attack you – you are absolutely within your rights to defend yourself.
Here is a video of one of my favorite techniques:
Notice the lack of groping….
SINMANTYX 
Isn’t immobilization a little….. demeaning? I mean if you knock somebody unconscious or break their neck, give them a concussion etc, due to the use of such techniques in popular media, it affords your enemy more honour.
Part of the theater of an interaction like that is to humiliate your opponent without seeming cruel or violent yourself.
In extreme situations, the moral high ground, the life/health of your opponent, and the worry of being charged with a crime are secondary – obviously.
But not all situations are extreme – and how the interaction appears to others and the ethics of proportional response come into play.
Exactly, which is why in some situations it is more respectful to your opponents to kill or seriously wound them due to societies perception of weakness and strength.
Right – and if ever in that sort of situations – I would much rather wound their ego than their body.